We are what we think we are:

1. Others see, in us what we think of ourselves.
2. How you think determines how you act and how others react
to you.
3. Look important, it helps you think important.
4. Dress right, it always pays
5. The sharper you look, the sharper you will be. (A pencil,
when sharpened, has a clear defined point and writing is
easily read, but a dull pencil is just that, (Dull)
6. Pay twice as much and get half as many: Example, 2 fine
suits are much nicer, last longer, and look better than 4 cheap
ones.
7. If you think of yourself in poor situations, that is what you
will get.
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8. Think of yourself as sharp, clean, together, intelligent,
informed, and interesting, and that is what you will be.
9. I’m short: Practice uplifting self-praise, not belittling selfpunishment,
think more of your self, and there is more of
you.
10. Be self improving in academics, family and friends. Make
progress in changing bad habits, eliminating negativism,
and wasting time.

source : “A Positive Attitude” by Dan Auito

FRIENDSHIP IS NOT FREE; IT MUST BE EARNED!

friendship

simple illustration

We should try to do these things better:

1. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
2. Talk in the interest ranges of the things that people treasure most when talking to them.
3. Talk to people about themselves and recognize their importance.
4. Respect other people’s good judgment and avoid arguments.
5. Never tell anyone they are wrong, we all will rationalize to the point of thinking we are unequivocally right.
6. We should criticize ourselves before other people have a chance to; if you are wrong, admit it!
7. Tread softly, you will go farther.
8. We should try to let our friends feel as though they have excelled us at some time or another.
9. Let others do a great deal more of the talking.
10. Figure out why others think as they do; look at it from their viewpoint.

11. Show compassion to others (this is yearned for).
12. Treat people with respect, dignity, honesty, truth fulness and willingness; they will generally emulate those feelings.
13. Challenge others to do something better, never force them.
14. Call attention to mistakes indirectly (don’t broadcast).
15. Make difficulties seem easy to conquer.
16. Praise minutest improvements; and inspire hidden treasures in others.
17. Be friendly.
18. Force yourself to smile! (you will.)
19. Consider other’s good points.
20. Make others want to follow your suggestions.
21. Always appreciate people’s time.
22. Be interested in everyone you meet.
23. Always remember, good manners are made up of petty sacrifices.

quoted from “A Positive Attitude”, author : Dan Auito

How can we improve our listening skills?

Here are some tips to help you:
• start listening with the first word and then listen intently
• stop what you are doing and listen – don’t be tempted to do two things at once
• turn off all negative thoughts you have about the speaker
• think at the speed they’re talking, don’t jump ahead
• do not interrupt
• find an area of interest
• judge the content and not the delivery
• suspend your judgement and keep an open mind
• actively listen for ideas
• resist distractions if you possibly can
• make listening noises, particularly if you are on the telephone, for example ‘uh, uh, yes’, and if faceto-face ensure that your body language looks as if it is listening, give good eye contact.

Exercises for improving your listening skills:
1. Take five minutes a day to sit quietly somewhere, close your eyes and listen to all the sounds around you. Become conscious of them. How many different sounds can you hear? In addition to improving your listening skills this can also be relaxing.

2. When you are having a conversation with another person, receive what he or she has said before rushing in to make your contribution. If you feel you want to interrupt, think about pausing and breathing before you start to talk. A pause before you speak can also add significance.

3 Listen to the radio as much as possible – talk programmes, not music. What information did you receive? Can you summarize it?

sumber : “Communicating with more Confidence” karya : Pauline Rowson.
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Listening

LST

How to be a good listener

Listening, really listening, is the hardest thing to do and the highest form of courtesy!
Listening is an essential part of being a good communicator but it is a skill that is perilously close to becoming extinct.
As more and more of our communication becomes visual and text driven, i.e. Internet, text and computers we are forgetting how to listen.
Listening involves both: the ability to understand what is being said, and the ability to organize and analyze the messages
in order to retain them for subsequent use.
There are two types of listening:
1 casual listening
2 critical listening

Casual listening
Casual listening is what we tend to do most of the time. We are only half listening, we retain bits of the conversation, we discard other parts of it. As a result you often get the following scenario between two people:
‘Don’t forget we’re going out tonight.’
‘Are we? You didn’t mention it.’
‘Yes, I did, I told you two days ago. You weren’t listening.’
We often switch off, particularly when we are listening to someone we know well.
Critical listening
Critical listening requires concentration and stamina. Here you are making a real effort to understand the other person’s point of view. You are listening to them, retaining what they say, storing it away and then retrieving some of it later when you need it. These skills are essential in a sales situation and rather important too in an interview. If you have listened, and I mean really listened, it is highly likely that you will come away with a headache. You have exercised your mental
powers to extremes! In both the above situations you are not only trying to concentrate on what the other person is saying but you are also reading their body language, thinking about your own body language and formulating your response to their questions, plus thinking of your own questions to ask. Is it no wonder you end up with a headache?

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How can we improve our selfesteem?

self

how to get Self Esteem

Many of us have been raised that to think or say nice things about ourselves is not ‘right’. It is sometimes much easier for us to find fault with ourselves than to find the ‘good’ in ourselves. It’s all very well to be selfdeprecating but this can become a habit, and a bad one at that. If we are always putting ourselves down then how can we ever communicate confidently?
So let’s try the following exercise:

Exercise
Taking a piece of paper write down the following:
1 Two physical attributes you like about yourself
2 Two personality qualities you like about yourself
3 One talent or skill that you like in yourself.
How easy was that for you? If you found it difficult, which many people do, then find someone whose opinion you value and trust and ask them to complete it for you, (you can also do the same for them) and then exchange notes. This can be a great confidence boosting exercise.
Next keep this piece of paper with you, to refresh yourself of your good points particularly when feeling low or nervous.
If you constantly focus on the negative then you will give out negative thoughts, your body language will give out the same and not only will you continue to feel negative but others will react to you in a negative or hostile way, or they will completely dismiss you and your opinions.
So you need to constantly remind yourself of your good qualities and what you have got going for you. Retrain your brain into thinking about the positive and not the negative. Your body language will therefore change and you will start to give out more positive body language signals.

sumber : “Communicating with more Confidence” karya : Pauline Rowson.
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